My brother is awful to my parents and we think he has mental health issues

11/08/2017 Guardian Staff 0

He has had serious mood swings for most of his adult life, but my parents are scared to confront him in case he stops them seeing their grandchildren

I am concerned about how my brother treats my parents. He is 39, has a family of his own and is apparently a good dad, but he is controlling, moody and insular. His sulks and mood swings have become unbearable and my parents never know what mood he will be in when he visits. Increasingly, he is spiteful, abrupt, ungrateful and rude. My parents are the most loving, giving parents and there has never been an incident to trigger his behaviour. He has had serious mood swings for most of his adult life and hasn’t spoken to me for 20 years. My parents are scared to confront him in case he reacts and prevents them from seeing their grandchildren. My mother tried speaking to him during his last stay, but there is absolutely no reasoning with him and he shuts down and backs away. He is now not speaking to either of them and has told them they are not welcome at his home. We are sure he has mental health issues, but there is no way he will ask for help. How can this ever get better?

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Surgery must be a core part of health care – even in the poorest countries

11/08/2017 David Barash 0

Surgery-treatable conditions kill more people than TB, Malaria and AIDS combined – how can access to surgery be improved in developing countries?

The world has made tremendous progress in dealing with many of the health challenges that have global impact – for example, maternal and infant mortality rates have been massively reduced and there’s been promising advances in the treatment of HIV/AIDS, tuberculosis and malaria. But there is one area that the global health community has overlooked – surgery.

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