Itâ€™s not fair, but your sister probably feels life hasnâ€™t been very fair lately. Leave the door open, says Annalisa Barbieri
My sister and I have always been very close, despite being complete opposites. Sheâ€™s the prettier, straight-As, high-flying one; I dropped out of school and never found a job I was good at. She has an exceptionally successful career, but no children; Iâ€™ve been a full-time mum since having my children, who are now teenagers. But I never felt competitive towards her, there was no need as she was so lovely to me, always inviting me to things and making me feel included in her exciting, glamorous life. Iâ€™ve always looked up to her and been in awe of her â€“ I idolised her.
Some time ago, she was diagnosed with breast cancer. She had treatment and recovered remarkably quickly. But, from the moment she told me about her illness, I felt like I was talking to a different person. It felt like she was livid with me about something, often the smallest thing. She kept this side of herself hidden from everyone else; it was only when we were alone that she spoke to me in this new, furious voice. She sent me photos of the parties sheâ€™d had that I wasnâ€™t invited to, and tried to undermine me to my husband.
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